It’s a simple fact that often, it can be hard to convince yourself that you deserve something. That “something” in question can be absolutely anything – a job, a grade, an acceptance…. the list can go on and on.
I often find it hard to believe that I will be so lucky as to receive the outcome I want. Some people call it pessimism, I call it realism. But what I am beginning to learn – slowly but surely – is that it really is ok to believe in yourself. If you want something, it is important to have the confidence to know that it is possible that you could get it.
I personally think there is a balance to achieve the perfect level of confidence – part of that is not getting your hopes up too much in that you think the thing in question is an absolute given. But confidence is necessary – as the saying goes, fake it until you make it. Sometimes a bit of faking it – exuding confidence where there is none – is just what you need to do to get ahead.
What prompted me to write this was finding this tweet on one of the folders on my computer…
It came as a perfect reminder that it’s important to know there is no reason why you shouldn’t be as fortunate as someone else. There’s no reason to not hope for something that may seem supremely unachievable. I’ve seen plenty of people get things that are, in my opinion, way out of their reach. They believed in themselves – despite the fact that the odds were stacked against them – and it seemed to work out.
Whatever it is you are facing at this point, make a promise to yourself that you will believe! I’ve realized that positivity can also be realism, as long as you approach it the right way. And honestly, if it crosses a point where it isn’t realism, who cares. Sometimes a bit of fantasy can do you some good.